Really, I don’t know what more there is to say about this one beyond what it already says. I mean, do it. Love and cherish your spouse all the while you have breath. I didn’t and I lost it all. I started doing it, and I got it all back and gained more than I’d ever had before.
Now, here’s the key. You don’t love and cherish on your terms. You have to be willing to find out how he or she wants and needs to be loved, and what will make him or her FEEL cherished. It’s not nearly enough to say to yourself, “He knows,” or “She knows how I feel about her.” She doesn’t. You have to tell her and show her over and over again. If you love the person you’re married to, you need to express that love in tangible ways. He won’t know that you cherish him unless you show it by your actions.
The truth is, this vow really means, “I will never take you for granted.” That is the opposite of cherishing. Your spouse needs to be the most important and most special person in your life, and if that isn’t the case, you need to change and make it so. It’s that simple.
Finally, it’s for life. Not just during the courtship. Not until you have him/her. Not until after the honeymoon. Not until the newness wears off. Not as long as it’s making you happy. Till death. That means forever.
Tomorrow is our vow renewal ceremony and I probably won’t blog tomorrow. The three months is up and the restoration is finished. I won’t just leave you like this, though. I will come back and let you know how it went. After that, who knows. Thank you for taking this journey with me, and I hope that it serves as an inspiration to many people and couples. What would mean the very most to me would be to find out that through this blog, a marriage was saved or healed. May God bless all who read the words of this story.