Posts Tagged ‘Blended Family’

Saturday, February 5, 2011

What was supposed to be about an 11 hour drive turned into 20.  Yes, that’s right, 20 hours in the car, most of it driving on ice.  After our slide off and back on the road in Oklahoma, we started getting a little bit silly.  At a place we stopped for gas and something to eat, I commented that it looked like a set for a redneck comedy.  Later, Ceecee noted that “I Spy” isn’t much fun on a dark highway.  

The real sign that we had been driving too long with too much stress though, was when we started making up acrostic poems based on friends and family members’ names.  We were posting them on Facebook and other people started adding their own, even using our names as subject material.  I suppose it was around midnight by then, and we had left our house at about 8:00 that morning.  

As we headed south through Texas, an ice storm began to develop that was making the highway so slick, semi trucks couldn’t get up some of the hills.  It got to the point that we could only go about 30 miles an hour and then they closed down the highway and made everyone exit.  Thank goodness for GPS and a front wheel drive car that handled things just fine.  We finally got to our hotel and into our room at 4:00 AM yesterday morning.

We had to get up just a few hours later to go see Taylor.  Some of the roads were still closed and we had to go around some detours and eventually broke the law by driving around some cones and just taking one of the roads that no one was supposed to be on.  By that time, the sun was shining and it was no longer icy, so we figured we’d take our chances.  

We got to take Taylor out for Chinese food after watching him inhale his cupcakes in the car.  We spent part of the day with him, but turned him over to his Dad pretty early so we could go back to our room and try to catch up on some much needed sleep.  We’ve actually got a really cool room here for three nights, so we did the tourist thing today and we’ll be making the drive home tomorrow.

Monday, January 10, 2011

Somehow, Ceecee missed Taylor’s call yesterday.  It’s crazy.  She’s almost obsessed with not missing his call, so she keeps her phone pretty much glued to her, but somehow it happened.  He’s only allowed one phone call per week, so that was it.  He graduates from basic in 4 weeks and we’ll see him then.

Monday, December 27, 2010

 

Back in our beloved St. Louis.  We stopped to eat at Guido’s on The Hill, which we always enjoy.  It brought back so many good memories, but especially of the day while we were separated and we brought my daughter to St. Louis.  That was the day when we sat at Guido’s and Ceecee began to recall good memories from our past, not the painful and difficult ones she had been stuck on for so long before that.

We all laughed a  lot that day and it seemed like something had changed in the dynamics of our relationship.  Ceecee confirmed later that I was right and that she had indeed begun to entertain a little hope that day that maybe things could work out for us.

Tomorrow we hit the road again, going west this time.  We’ll be staying in Dodge City, Ks as the tour continues…

Saturday, December 25, 2010

 

Another of God’s little blessings as we woke up to a totally unexpected white Christmas this morning in Clarksville.  It was the perfect kind, with a very gently falling snow and just enough to look pretty without being enough to cause any disruption.  We’re just hanging out here with Ceecee’s family for a few days, eating good food and enjoying the hospitality.

Taylor called this morning.  He got to talk to us and to many of the relatives who are here.  A lot of them are former military, so they were able to encourage him and give him advice.  He seems to be doing so much better and is looking forward to his graduation.  He told us some things he wants us to bring.

Monday, December 20, 2010

Yesterday, we did a small holiday meal with Angie and Ian and my parents, along with a small gift exchange. Most people spend the holidays with their families, and Ceecee and I have kind of made it a tradition to get away and spend them by ourselves. This year, we are radically departing from that.

We did the meal with our local relatives yesterday, and we will be going to Tennessee to spend Christmas with much of Ceecee’s family there. We’ll come back and then head to Kansas to spend a few days after with Ceecee’s Mom and Step-dad and two of our daughters. Taylor is still at basic, but we did get a call from him the other night and he sounded much better. We set it up for him to call while we’re in Tennessee for Christmas, so he can talk to a lot of the family.

Ceecee received a gift from the daughter she put up for adoption and who has recently come into our lives. It was a picture frame with a baby picture in it and it meant a great deal to her. It will really be something to meet in person, which I’m sure will happen before too long.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Last night was rough on Ceecee. Taylor was allowed his first phone call and he didn’t sound good at all. I suppose going to a strange place where you don’t know anyone and you get yelled at constantly is quite a shock to everyone. That’s kind of the idea, I know. Anyway, she was pretty upset, but she talked to some of her family who are military and they assured her that it will be fine.

Saturday, December 4, 2010

We found out today that Taylor will be shipping out for basic training on Tuesday. He goes to Lackland Air Force Base in San Antonio, Texas. I can tell he’s nervous, but we really believe this will be good for him. He’s never been away from home, though.

Other than that, life is kind of slow right now. We’re looking forward to Christmas break from school. I’m still at Macy’s. It’s easy money and they don’t ask much of me, so I don’t’ mind staying on for now.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Our marriage had so many great moments during the years before I began to fall apart. One theme that was pretty constant was my attempting, and often succeeding, in making Ceecee’s dreams come true. There have been many small ones and a few big ones.

One that happened recently had nothing to do with me. Well, not on the surface anyway. Ceecee had put a baby up for adoption long ago and had set it up to be an open adoption. She had always kept in touch with the lawyer and made sure he had her current address and contact information at all times.

The parents were supposed to have agreed that whenever the child asked about her biological parents, she would be told and that it would be her choice to initiate contact, if she wanted to. Ceecee often talked about her and wondered when that contact would occur.

When the time came that the girl would be turning sixteen, we believed that maybe it would be soon, but nothing happened. Again, around and following her 18th birthday, we anticipated that we would hear something. No contact was made again.

We knew what her adopted name was and had made small attempts to see if there were any public records or a Facebook page that would allow us to simply see how she seemed to be growing up, but there was never anything that we found that told us anything. Our oldest daughter had tried to find her more than once, but everything had proven to be false trails.

Then, one day recently, Angie called and said that she thought this time she had really found her on Facebook. Ceecee wasn’t allowed to initiate contact, but there was nothing preventing Angie from messaging her. She sent a friend request, which was accepted.

About this time, Ceecee came up to me one evening, held out her phone and said, “Look at this.” She was showing me a picture and I said, “Why are you showing me a picture of Kasey?” (Kasey is our middle daughter.) Ceecee said, “That’s not Kasey.” I looked again and just said, “Wow!” The family resemblance was uncanny. There was no doubt she was a sister.

Finally, it got to where everything was out in the open and Ceecee and her long ago adopted daughter got to speak on the phone briefly the other night. It’s just been one more amazing highlight in this magical time of our lives. While I had no direct impact on this taking place, we’ve talked about how much different this might be if we hadn’t worked our marriage out.

They would still be biological mother and daughter, regardless. The fact that Ceecee is now stable, happy, and in a good place is so much better than the alternative, though. This isn’t going to change anyone’s life, but we anticipate visits and the building of some amount of relationship as time goes by. I can’t be happier to be a part of it

Friday, August 6, 2010

Silver Dollar City was great last night! We went on Powder Keg in the very front seats in the dark and you couldn’t see what was in front of you, so we didn’t know when we were about to drop. Wow, it was awesome!

Today, the tension between us is still there, though, and rising. I talked to my therapist about it. It’s affecting me in the bedroom, because I don’t know what’s going on and there’s something between us that isn’t right. He said that’s very common and that we need to learn to trust each other again because we’ve both been hurt very deeply by everything that’s happened. He advised me to take it slow and even kind of date and “get to know” Ceecee again.

This afternoon, I was on my way to the gym with Taylor when the recruiting Sargent called and said they were giving him his test today in about 30 minutes. He was pretty freaked out. I called Ceecee and she met us there and he passed the test. They said they had a job for him, so it could be right away or not for another month or two before he got called up.

Tonight is first friday art walk downtown and we are all going to go.

Monday, August 2, 2010

I never thought I’d be this excited to be up early on a Monday morning. I’m getting some of my things ready to take with me, because when I leave Macy’s today, I’m going to the loft to be with Ceecee as husband and wife again! I’m not going to bring everything yet, but I’ll have a lot of my clothes and personal things in the car.

Taylor is going to stay at the apartment for now. We are paid for another month and we’ll just hope that he goes to the Air Force soon. Whenever they are ready, they’ll give him his physical test and then they need to have a job for him, so we’ll just wait and see. We’re still taking him out running and to the gym and trying to work on getting him in shape.